Setting Intentions for the New Year
My Intentions for 2018
Resolutions are not my thing. Any time I've set a "rule" for myself, it always backfires because I am a rebel at heart and eeeewwww rules! Even if it's something that will benefit me, I will do the opposite, just out of stubbornness. Ok, I know that's prob not my. best quality, but the first step is recognizing, right?? So instead of making any resolutions, I'm going to continue on my path of bettering myself by setting some basic intentions.
It's weird, gratitude is something that we all say we're gonna do, and yet being outwardly "grateful" (especially on social media) is seen as obnoxious. #grateful and #blessed have become facetious statements. Well guess what?! I am grateful and I am blessed, and the more I remind myself of these things, the less I am affected by small, meaningless shit. The more I remind myself how lucky I am to be alive, to be a wife & mother, to have choices, the more I can calmly move through my life. People always ask me how I work late nights and manage to wake up early with my girl, and the answer is gratitude. I am so thankful to be able to wake up another day with the people I love, and this feeling guides me through my minutes, my days, my life. It helps when I don't get the job, or I'm feeling stuck, or just plain in a funk. Reminding myself of my blessings (a word I used to HATE) will always snap me into a better, calmer way of being.
Mindfullness just means being present. It means being in the moment and finding appreciation and beauty in life. There are even recent studies that say practicing mindfulness can rewire your brain and actually benefit your health and wellbeing. And yes, in big obvious moments, but also the small mundane moments. I find this is a biggie to apply with food too. Allowing yourself to enjoy a meal, really slowing down and actually tasting your food, instead of mindlessly grabbing whatever, or even punishing yourself for eating something "bad". When we don't practice mindfulness while eating, this is when we make poor decisions for our bodies & health. Slow down, think about what will serve your body best and make you feel your best, and positive choices are much more likely to occur. And if not, skip the punishment, and just keep moving forward.
3. Making Time
I'll admit, making time for myself sometimes feels impossible. Like I actually have zero extra minutes. But if we can manage to find even 10 minutes to do something for ourselves, we will be better for it. I am going to try to check in with my body for 10 minutes a day. Maybe it'll be doing some squats and abs to get my blood pumping, maybe it'll be some stretching, or maybe I'll finally get my groove on to meditate (maybe). But whatever or wherever it is, I know that making a little time will benefit me in a big way.
4. Stop Self-Sabotage
Why is self-sabotage so common?? I have struggled with letting my fear of failure get in my way for years. And the older I get, I'm noticing more and more that I'll make excuses to NOT put myself out there or take a risk. Whether it be an audition, or starting this blog, I'll talk myself out of it. My brain says things like "You're not good enough" "Nobody cares" "It's not worth it", and these are all self-sabotaging mantras that are getting in my own way. I'm going to really try to be my own cheerleader and lift myself up in confidence and self love. This one also applies to eating and health. Making choices that I KNOW will lead to me not feeling my best (like snacking too much before dinner, or drinking to much) need to be put in check. I'm gonna treat my body so that I feel my best! If I have a bad day, I'm gonna reach for things that will make me feel great, instead of "treating myself" to junk.
5. Be Light
Being light has so many meanings, and I'm hoping to adhere to many of them. I want to be easy, breezy. Things are only as heavy as we make them, and I don't know about you, but I much prefer easing through life rather than carrying a heavy load. I truly believe this can all be shifted with mindfulness and reminding yourself that most things aren't as heavy as they seem. I also want to be light. I want to be a shiny bright light, instead of dingy and dark. Being light will only attract positivity into your life. My husband has taught me so much about being bright and positive by always seeing goodness and always seeing possibility in challenges. And lastly, I want my body to feel light. Don't mistake me, I do NOT want to focus on weight loss, but instead, I want to feel energized and light on my feet. I want to feel healthy and great in my jeans. Drinking more water, upping my veggies, and keeping active are all great ways to get on this path.
Like I said, I don't do resolutions. These are just some intentions that I'll try my best to incorporate into my daily routine. It's all a practice, and my biggest intention is to not punish myself if have days where I struggle. I wish for everyone a Happy & Healthy New Year!